Universal conversations~

I've been having similar conversations with many people from different walks of my life recently. I'm starting to think it's the universe trying to tell me something. (I'm also seeing angel numbers EVERYWHERE—so much so that my dear friend Julian and I text each other when it happens, just to confirm what our guides are telling us.)

The conversations keep coming back to this idea—the concept of aligning ourselves with what feels right. Security and authenticity are major themes in honest conversations with friends. One lesson I'm learning is that being direct, but with an honest heart, is essential. It aligns with my brain wiring, and I can feel it within myself when something is aligning and when something is not.

I have to give credit to the friends who are secure with themselves or express what is called a secure attachment style. Their energy and the way they navigate the world have helped ease my anxiety. As I mentioned in my blog post about taking a break from alcohol for a year, I'm used to people "leaving me," which has given me an abandonment wound that colors my connections.

"I'm in the business of losing your interest
And I turn a profit each time that we speak."

These lyrics by Noah Kahan spoke deeply to me. I was always very good at people-pleasing when meeting new people, but in the back of my mind, I would think it's only a matter of time before I mess this up or they find out they actually don't like me. However, by meeting friends who are older or have lived more life, I have found security in my own self-talk. I have found that my real friends and true connections will not just leave me but will rather find ways to work through any "hiccups" or misunderstandings.

We must do our best to forgive who we were and who we are and remind ourselves that as long as we are true and authentic in our communications, sometimes it's the other person who needs to work on whatever is happening between the two of you. If you hold yourself accountable and know that you've apologized and been honest, that's all you can do.

Again, I thank the people who have helped me on this journey of life and parenthood because I need to be able to share these lessons with my sons and the children in my life. As always, thank you for reading. I appreciate you~