Twin Mom feels

In so many ways I keep understanding why we were given twins. Twins are not easy. 2 is more than 1, last time I checked. If twins were the normal procreation more than 33% of parents would be having them instead of most people have one baby at a time.

With that said, the comments that both my husband and I receive when we are told we are having twins I feel are wearing on me (my husband is like a duck everything is water and it rolls right off).

• “Double trouble” 😡 (I think this one bothers me the most)
• “Get ready” 😡
• ”Oh you really won’t get any sleep”😡
• ”Two and done right?” 😡 (maybe, maybe not we won’t know till we experience our new life)
• “I can’t imagine two at once” 😡 (this comment or ANYTHING that compares twins to a singleton)

To me I wonder what are these comments suppose to do? They’re all negative and make the mother or father feel uncomfortable. We understand that two infants at once will be a challenge—as I mentioned before there is a reason the majority of people only have one at a time.

However life does seem to balance out. There have been so many yoga students and friends who have been supportive with comments; many saying how we will be great and how we can do it. That was the first thing my mother-in-law said to me: “if anyone can have twins it’s you.” That’s all we need. That’s all ANY parent needs to hear!!! I also love the friends here in VA that have already offered help because that’s what any new parent needs: help! Whether there is one child or two!


I think everyone needs to rewatch Bambi and heed Thumper’s words of wisdom: “if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.”


Side Note: I know it’s only going to get worse once they’re here but as I started this rant, the universe gave us twins for a reason and one of the reasons is maybe me working on just smiling and moving on! 😂